The Wait. Post-Graduation Edition

Sunday, September 2, 2018

As some of you may know, I am a recent graduate of NC State’s Master of Social Work Program. I’ve spent the last six years of my life absorbing all of the education and experience, both academic and non-academic, from this colorful institution. Including the last six years, that means that I have been in a classroom nearly every season of my life for about 20 years…talk about perspective! 20 years of education with the assumption that after it’s all said and done, and all the tassels have been turned, I would be employed. Since May, I have been waiting… and waiting (ehh, I wouldn’t say the wait has been a patient one) to receive a call or email, shoot a text or SOMETHING from my dream job as I have watched my closest friends accept job offers, pick up and move to new locations and receive promotions. Now, here I am, nearly 4 months later and I’ve heard nothing but the sound of my own cheers and applause for everyone else. BUT, what I have done, is channeled my impatience and experience into 4 essential steps to help us embrace our season(s) of waiting post-graduation. DISCLAIMER: These 4 steps can be applied to any season of waiting, not just post-graduation stalls.

Step #1: STOP BEING BITTER. Periodt.

Bitterness is a feeling worse than anger because at least with anger, you have some fragment of control; however, bitterness usually occurs when we feel like we have lost complete control of everything. Now listen, I get it. It’s so much easier for us to be bitter and wallow in our disappointment than it is for us to stand tall and celebrate all of the amazing achievements and milestones for everyone else. You must do it anyway. On your most difficult day, call your best friend(s) and tell them how proud you are of everything they’ve been doing lately because while you can’t go back and change the fact that they just received their second promotion and you’re still waiting on an offer, you CAN choose to move forward with your life and wait your turn. Remind yourself that a season of delay is not denial, rather, a period of transition into who you were created to be. Soon, everyone will be celebrating YOUR accomplishments and you will have established a new level of resiliency. Rest in that.

Step #2: Find Out Who You Are & Who You Want to Be.

While you wait, this is the PERFECT time to explore all that you have to offer. Who are YOU? And how does that person affect who or what you are working to become in your next season? These are two important questions that you currently have time to ponder and answer because well…you’re waiting, so you got time today. Getting to know yourself can be uncomfortable for some of us especially since most of us feel that we already know who we are. I mean, it’s easy to think that when our Planners and Google Calendars have us going from one thing to the next without a second to take a deep breath, let alone find ourselves. But if you don’t take advantage of the space and opportunity that you have to do it now, you will be scrambling to answer those questions once the seasons change.

Step #3: Learn to be Content.

God is not as concerned with your happiness as much as He is with you being content in your current season. We spend so much time trying to get THERE that once THERE is HERE, we’re still searching and begging for more. Now, there is nothing wrong with wanting more…especially when you truly know what your purpose is and that you have so many gifts and talents to use. But, you have to learn to be content with what you have RIGHT NOW, regardless of what is or is not going on around you. Can you appreciate what you have, while you have it, before you receive more?

Step #4: Play Yo Part [3 Stacks].

You are going to have to MOVE. This is not the time for you to be twiddling your thumbs and tappin’ your toes. Do whatever it takes to fulfill your purpose! Faith without works is DEAD and whether you choose to accept it or not, you have a part to play. Somebody’s life is relying on you to move, play your role and do what God has called you to do…that someone is YOU. So, wipe your tears, spit out the bitter taste in your mouth and be all that you can be.

I am applauding and celebrating all that you are right now and all that you will become.

With Blessings & Imperfections,

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